Just When you Finally Have things Figured Out

*WARNING: This post contains pregnancy talk and may not be suitable for the man who has no idea what being 4cm dilated means or gags at the mention of the word fluid.


You find yourself still pregnant two days past your due date!

My friend told me that I jinxed myself. And maybe I did. But the reality is, I really had never made it to a due date! Not just once, but thrice, my friends. So what was I supposed to expect especially with a fourth pregnancy??

This has been a roller coaster of a week for me to say the least.

I thought labor had started twice. With strong contractions, intensifying over a 3-5 hour period. Only to stop as suddenly has it started.

I thought my water had broken. Yeah, not a pleasant thought when I realized it wasn’t amniotic fluid!

I was told by my midwife that I was dilated to 4cm and most likely would go by the weekend. (It is now Tuesday)

I have had at least 3 days of constant, strong and uncomfortable cramping and contractions.

I have watched my due date come and go.

I have struggled with intense discomfort due to being so dilated.

I have had to endure the million questions and suggestions and opinions from well meaning family and friends. (Sorry if I have not responded well or not at all)

I have experienced swelling in my feet, legs, toes, hands, fingers, lips, face, nose, etc…

But the hardest part about this past week, has been the battle within my mind. I’d like to blame it all on the crazy hormones that are threatening to make me crazy. And maybe that’s part of it.

Maybe it’s the desperation I feel to be “unpregnant” as Levi would say.

Maybe it’s because I’m just weary.

I’d really like to blame it on all those things. But in the end I know that I have to be responsible for my thoughts and actions.

I have experienced true weakness this week. True ‘humanity’. Shame for not trusting. Embarrassment for letting my thoughts and emotions get the better of me. I have struggled with fear and anxiety like never before.

I came across a post I wrote just before going to Ukraine December of 2010. It’s titled A Calming Presence. I wasn’t looking for it, it just seemed to appear out of no where. I know it was the Lord speaking to me, encouraging me.

I was in a similar place just before leaving for Ukraine. Struggling with fear and doubt. But through that God showed me that it’s ok. Even in the midst of our weakness, He has a plan. He can still use us. And still prove to us that He is God, holding all things together.

Sunday was particularly bad. I woke up in a panic. The fear had over taken me the night before and I had completely succumb to it. I believed the words of the one who was attacking and oh how far I fell.

I knew my mind needed renewing. But the weight of my Bible was almost too heavy to bear.

I asked my Mother-in-Law for some Scripture references. She is such a huge encouragement to me. She doesn’t shy away from giving you Truth, even when you want someone to just feel sorry for you. Within minutes I had a slue of Scriptures dealing with fear and worry. I spent a long time meditating on them. Praying and crying through them. Allowing the Lord’s peace to wash over me. I felt invigorated. Able to see clearly once again. To recognize my blessings and to be thankful.

This releasing of control has been so hard for me. Coming to terms with the fact that I have to place my trust in a God who doesn’t promise ease and comfort. That His goal for us is to be holy and not always happy. That He is always good but isn’t always safe. Well, it’s been a moment by moment battle. The failures have threatened to shake me to my core. And the victories have been slight in comparison.

But thankfully, this is the encouragement we have:

Let the beloved of the Lord rest in him, for he shields him all day long and the one the Lord loves rests between his shoulders – Deut. 33:12
Who can speak and have it happen if the Lord has not decreed it? Is it not from the mouth of the Most High that both calamities and good things come? – Lam. 3:37-38
…call upon me and come and pray to me and I will listen to you…
I will be found by you – Jer. 29:11-14
Humble yourself under God’s might hand that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you. Be self-controlled and alert. Your ENEMY the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the FAITH… And the God of grace… will restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. – 1Peter 5
For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the spirit of sonship… – Rom. 8:15
In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us… – Rom. 8:26
For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels or demons, neither present or future, nor any powers… will be able to separate us from the LOVE of God – Rom 8:38
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding will GUARD your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.
Phil. 4
I am so thankful for freedom in Christ. That I can share these things with you, speak them out loud and not have to be shameful. My weakness can be used for the glory of God. And it should. There is nothing within us, no strength or power or goodness. Not even faithfulness or loyalty. It doesn’t make sense that God would pursue this one-sided relationship with us. But he does. 
And oh how thankful I am for that.
So, take this from someone who speaks from experience. If you are trying to figure out life, even the small moments within life, stop right now and let go of control. You’ll save yourself a lot of agony.
Oh, and would you mind reminding me of these things in a day or two?

4 thoughts on “Just When you Finally Have things Figured Out

  1. There is peace in those verses, Mika'l. I love that first one you posted. Resting between his shoulders is the key. That's where we rest, laying down our desire for control, our worries and fears. He is truly good, and His great desire is for us to be close to Him.
    I am sorry your new baby has not arrived yet. We are praying for you, and trust you are in Good hands. xox love you :l

  2. I needed to read that today. Thanks for sharing. We should boast in our weaknesses (2. Cor. 12,10). Love to you! I totally understand where you are at. All of my children came past their due dates, Lilli even came 12 days late. Those days took A LOT of energy out of me. Praying your baby boy will come soon.

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